When Life Got in The Way: Where I’m at & Where I Want To Be


In between providing all of my loyal readers with the best product reviews, blogging tutorials, giveaways, and unusual holiday announcements, I thought it would be a good time for a life update. It’s been barely 1-month since I made the ultimate decision to return to full-time blogging. I never wanted to be gone forever, or at all. It was temporary, but much more temporary than I wanted it to be.

Now is a good time for me to take a step back, analyze the progress (and lack thereof), and clue everyone in on how I am doing — behind the scenes and all.

Things started off shaky. I was nervous. I had basically dropped the ball and ran for the hills. I knew that my loyal friends would have understood, but what about the others? Whether or not we have engaged through social media or a blog comment, I still care and appreciate your loyalty.

I see my traffic numbers. I know people are out there reading and appreciating MamaNYC. I received the emails and comments inquiring on my whereabouts over the last couple of months. I knew people cared — and that’s one major reason I feel inspired and ignited once again.

I started off gradual. First, I broke down the walls in my blogger support group on Facebook, BloggerPR. These women (and men!) have been the greatest since the day I founded the group. If anyone deserved to know why I had disappeared — BloggerPR was first.

Next up was a public announcement on MamaNYC. You can read all about my return to blogging, which is an entirely different story that I won’t repeat here (too long and repetitive!). Basically, I had to explain WHY I made the decision to go – life got in the way and I was overwhelmed. I needed a break.

I also had a huge announcement to make: MamaNYC was now living in the Poconos. Yes, I packed my bags and my family — and left NYC after 29.5 years as a resident. Scared, excited, and ready for the new chapter to begin.

I knew it would take a while to kick the blog into high gear again, but how long? I considered the mess I had left behind and a possibly-tarnished reputation. I estimated things would take anywhere from 2-8 weeks to feel alive again for my blog.

I decided to jump into the water and tread like I had never taken a break from blogging. I took off where I had left off and it felt amazing. I was back in the game and remembered why I loved blogging in the first place. Things came back to me and within moments I was where I wanted to be.

Since I was looking at things in a fresh perspective with a new outlook on life, I needed a fresh and new blog theme. I knew (deep, DEEP down) that this wasn’t the time for a makeover, but I am (very) stubborn. I started off dabbling with new theme ideas. Before I knew it, I had spent nearly 1-week transforming MamaNYC. My blog had to look how I was feeling at the time: renewed, fresh, clean. Plus, I had the same theme since 2011. A blog makeover was overdue by 2-years.

Now that it has been nearly 3-weeks since I returned to blogging, I feel like I didn’t skip a beat. Sure, I have plenty more work to do. Things are still quite a mess back here and I am carefully reminding myself to stay at a pace that I can handle. I have two kids now – double the work (actually, 10x the work!).

I am a work-a-holic. I love to have goals, stay determined, work on a variety of projects at any given time, and hate boredom. I believe self-worth is needed. I am ultimately responsible for the upbringing of my son and my daughter, but I started MamaNYC because I had to keep myself in-check with the outside world. I love to share product recommendations with friends and family, so it all made sense.

How did I wind up here? I feel tremendously fortunate for the opportunities and challenges that MamaNYC has given me in the last 4-years. The way this all started was completely random and not at all what I had expected to do back in 2010. I wouldn’t change a thing if I could. The life experiences, friends, and knowledge that I have gained is priceless.

Going Forward…

If there is one thing that I have learned from blogging: the life of a blogger is very unpredictable. We all have our fancy (or, not-so-fancy) editorial calendars. Some of the cooler gals that can retain information still — they’ll remember upcoming projects and campaigns in their heads (They’re crazy gals!). We try to predict the future, but the world of blogging changes hourly. Upcoming projects are canceled. Deadlines are moved. I don’t know what tomorrow holds, but I know I will be here to enjoy the ride.

Its been a crazy 4-years. I’ve changed a lot and so has MamaNYC. . .

MamaNYC November 2010

[October 2010]

MamaNYC October 2011

[October 2011]

MamaNYC October 2011

[December 2011]

The future is looking so bright and I am so appreciative of all the support you have given. It means the world to me, so I just had to let you know.

Now that I have dotted my i’s and crossed my t’s… I am ready. What I have given and shown you so far is only the first step in getting MamaNYC back on her toes. I’ve worked with some amazing partners and clients over the past 2-3 weeks. The next 2-3 months are (so far) going to blow my mind! I am thankful — to say the least.

Pleasantly proud to be back and looking forward (only)… 

 

Love Always, Nicole

  • http://ourmoderndayfairytale.blogspot.com/ Randi S

    I am sure I am not alone in saying it’ great to see you back!! And I love the new look as well :)

  • Ashley F

    Good for you! I am looking forward to your posts, reviews and giveaways! Love the new look, too.

  • stephanie

    Taking a break is sometimes what is needed! Glad that you have been able to feel refreshed and renewed! The blog is looking great!!!

  • Dianna Thomas

    I think its only human to flounder a bit– and take time for yourself– I know I have to occasionally– All the same WELCOME HOME!! WE MISSED YOU!!! <3 so with that said lets put it in gear and move forward to a more wonderful you that I am so sure we are going to see–and are so glad you are back…

  • Rhea Stogsdill Chladek

    I am glad you’re back. I understand the need for a break, to step back and re-evaluate, recuperate, refresh. I believe the human body and spirit is designed to need times of rest.

    Several years ago, I had a home-based business, while working full-time. I enjoyed doing the parties, making a little extra money and earning great products, but the busy weekends, every weekend, began to take their toll. I knew when the time had come to step back.

    I also knew that it didn’t necessarily have to be forever. I have not yet stepped back into the home-business role, but I have had new opportunities to improve my life in other ways.

    Life has been crazy-busy, with working, having a teenage son, a preteen daughter, and making time to connect with friends. There have been times of setback, disappointments, even hopelessness, but there have also been moments of sheer joy.

    Thank you for being you, and for sharing your life journey with us, the readers. Enjoy the journey, whether it is a time of being in “full-swing” or a time of rest…Blessings to you!

    :) Rhea Stogsdill Chladek

    • http://www.mamanyc.net MamaNYC

      Thank you, Rhea!

      I had to be honest. Making up a story about how I was really an amazing woman that COULD handle it all, but just had to take an excursion to save the world — that would have just been worse. We’re all human and we ALL have breaking points. I worked nonstop (LITERALLY) for 3+ years on MamaNYC. Every second that I had to spare — I was blogging. It was overwhelming once my daughter was born. I thought I would be able to handle it, but I really just needed a break for adjustments.

      It felt good to be completely honest. I always have been and coming back after a 5-6 month hiatus and covering it up with a lie (or saying nothing at all!) isn’t who I am. I don’t believe in Super Moms. We’re all SUPER and we are MOMS, but I don’t want myself or anyone else to think that any mom is perfect. We’re only perfect to our kids, right?! :O) Thank you for your support and kind words. It REALLY means the world! <3

  • http://ifshecouldonlylosesomeweight.blogspot.com/ Sam

    Welcome back! I’ve had my ups and downs with blogging and I’m not starting to try and rebuild and get a successful blog going. Here’s to blogging in 2014!

  • Sarah L

    Welcome back! Will you have to change the name of your blog since you’re no longer in NYC?