So, I am pregnant and all – and will be for the next 6-7 months. I am reflecting back into my first pregnancy as I remember all of those things that hurt, feel terrible, and the silly things people say to pregnant women. I am hearing it all over and over again! It’s like a broken record, especially since a lot of people seem to never get it!
I can’t blame them TOO much for their statements. Remember the stuff you used to say to pregnant women before you know how it was? Now that you have been there and know how annoying it is, or how degrading that statement actually is to a pregnant woman’s feelings, I can bet you hold your tongue (or I hope you do!).
My first "HOW COULD YOU SAY THAT?" remark came in nearly 3-weeks ago when I was ONLY 6-7 weeks pregnant:
"Wow! You are SO big already!"
This is not something you say to a pregnant woman – EVER, but especially not after her telling you she is ONLY 6-7 weeks pregnant. Am I really THAT big? fat? huge? Should I cutdown on eating already? Sigh! I don’t take it to heart (too much), but as you can see – I will remember her statement likely forever.
- "You look like you are about to pop/burst!"
- "You’re still pregnant?"
- "Your body will never be the same."
- "Are you ready to have this baby?
- "Have you gotten everything done?
- “You’re having a girl? Oh, they’re so much harder than boys…"
- "Are you having twins?
- "Are your feet normally THAT big?
- "How are you feeling?"
- It’s not gonna hurt/it’s not gonna be that bad…"
- "Oh quit yer complaining. What’s the big deal? Women have been doing it for thousands of years. You aren’t the first woman to have a baby, ya know?!"
- . “You’ll never sleep once the baby comes."
- “I never thought you’d get fat!"
- "I can’t believe bathing suit season is right around the corner. I have to get rid of these love handles, right?!"
- "Hey, can you help me move this Saturday?"
- "Did you see how quickly Jessica Alba got her pre-baby body back?"
- "Oh my God, you should totally come with us tonight — you don’t mind being a designated driver, right?"
- "I actually think the extra weight suits you."
- "Bad day? Nothing a piping hot shower can’t fix."
- "Bad day? Let’s forget our worries and get wasted at the bar!"
- "Ahhhhh, I had the best sleep last night."
- "Let’s take the stairs!"
- "Let’s do dinner at the sushi bar tonight – I am craving sushi for days!"
- "My friend’s baby died in the last week of pregnancy."
- "My friend had her baby in the car on the way to the hospital."
About Nicole
Nicole is a stay-at-home mom living on the outskirts of Manhattan with her husband and their 3-year-old son. She is also expecting a second child in January 2013.
Lady, you are crazy, this is so funny. Seriously, though, what is wrong with “How are you feeling?”? So…want to go to a rave with me tonight?!!
I’ve heard many of those myself! I have an after pregnancy one.. After they ask me about my newborn, they say, “and you’re having another already?!” … seriously? I was just asked that about a month and a half ago.
Lol!! They need to have classes for this.
So funny! Personally I never ask a woman ANYTHING about her pregnancy. Even if her water bursts on my feet, I will not come out and ask about it. Usually a preggo woman will initiate the conversation. I’m always afraid there will be something wrong and I will put my foot in my mouth. Like for example, she just happens to be be extremely pear shaped and I just never noticed. It would so happen to me.
LOL Dede! it’s so true though.. I never KNEW how insensitive a pregnant woman was until I WAS PREGNANT. Wait, I don’t WANT you to ask how I feel? Any other day I would welcome the question – and ask you how you were doing as well. When pregnant – no! All I hear in my head is “HOW DO I LOOK?! Does my face look like it is GLOWING? I have another human being to feed, carry around 24 hours a day, and it is also making me get quite FAT!”
I feel good today though.. but I will only tell you b/c you didn’t ask me first!
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Oh the stupid annoying this others will say! While I miss being pregnant I do not miss the crap people say! Good Luck Sweets!
so funny. Some people just don’t think before they open their mouths. They might need to be careful especially around a hormonal pregnant woman.
My favorite came from having them so close together. During my second pregnancy, I got big much earlier and people would constantly comment that I was SO HUGE compared to the last pregnancy.
Congrats on your pregnancy! Your list of things not to say is funny, but (even though I’ve been pregnant four times), I’m guilty of asking other pregnant women how they’re feeling. I guess I’m always hoping they’re not feeling as nauseous as I did.
So funny how real life is so funny! I heard most of these throughout my three pregnancies… ah, the insensitively! Though, sadly, I’m guilty of saying girls are harder to raise than boys, cuz, well, it’s true
(at least in my experience, those of you who had/have super easy to raise girls, kudos!)
You are right. It’s ridiculous how many “big” comments I and others received, and we certainly didn’t want or need them
Oh my goodness, that is quite the list and oh so true! My last pregnancy was 11 years ago but with all 3 of mine, I heard almost all of these ridiculous comments! I was always shocked and wondered how people could be *SO* insensitive! Even though it has been 11 years, I am ashamed to admit I still have my belly which looks like I might be 2-3 months along and at least twice a week I get asked if I am pregnant…I am 46 years old for goodness sake! If I was unsure whether someone was pregnant or not, I wouldn’t mention it. All those people lack the ability to think before they open their mouth!
I am 33 weeks tomorrow, and I keep getting told how small I am, which is followed by “Just wait a few more weeks, you’re going to get HUGE!”
Another thing that annoys me is that sometimes family members/inlaws will pull up my shirt to look at my belly. Trust me, it’s still the same size looking at it with my shirt pulled down! And pushing at my belly button will NOT make it go back in! LOL gotta love it!
I’ve heard friends complain about a lot of these. Can you believe some people? Although some just slip out, like, “You are SO big!” Haha. The worst is, “Are you due soon?” and your friend is like, “No.”
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Its amazing how we can be down right rude without even having a clue that we are. I am overweight and have been since childhood. I have heard many rude comments in my 51 years so I can relate in a way to the moms to be.
I’ve never had these said to me at all during my pregnancy. I think another one would be “you’re pregnant….again?” by people who know you. I know I’ve caught myself thinking those things about people close to me lol.
The list was funny but very true.
I hate when people say, “are you ready yet?” Yes, after 30 weeks or so I think every woman is ready for to bend over, breathe, sleep on their stomach, etc!
I’m wrestling with the idea of having one more and this list definitely makes me smile.
Ugh.. tell me about it, Liz!
Earlier tonight my husband said, “I feel like this pregnancy has been going on forever“. Im sorry.. you WHAT?! Hey – remember me? The woman dealing with nausea, migraines, and everything else on a daily basis! We are just about to break the half way mark and I am already growing SO impatient. I told him that during my last pregnancy – around the 7-month mark – I kept trying to think back to what life was like before I was pregnant. I truly felt like I had been pregnant for 20-somewhat years; my entire life feels like it’s been consumed by pregnancy by the 3rd trimester!
I’m ready now (but no, no… let’s keep the baby in there for a while longer! Need to make sure she’s healthy and strong!). I definitely want to rip my hair out though when people say “Aww! You look like you are ready to POP!” Yeah? You don’t look so hot yourself! (Hah! Can you see i’m having a bad pregnancy day?!
Ahh… the joys of pregnancy!