Last Tuesday I shared your stories, tips, and advice on how to deal with temper tantrums. Thereafter, I announced the NEXT topic for Talk To Me Tuesday, which we will be discussing today: PICKY EATER PROBLEMS!
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Every Tuesday I will be featuring a new segment called Talk To Me Tuesday, which is going to feature YOUR advice, input, stories (horror stories welcome!), and tips. Each week I will post the NEXT weeks topic to discuss and everyone will submit their stories. Come back the following Tuesday and you will find your submission(s) posted here at MamaNYC!
First Thing First!
Let’s get down to business and hear YOUR input on last weeks topic!
Last week I asked my readers to submit some of their tips, positive stories, HORROR stories, and advice on picky eater problems.
My son does not like to eat. He will of course EAT, but very little and very rarely. I have been dealing with this since birth! He’s a very skinny little boy and I have to deal with the fights and a very stubborn attitude in order to get my son to eat SOMETHING! I reached out and asked readers for their tips and horror stories. This topic is obviously very important and a serious matter. We want our kids to get the proper amount of nutrition on a DAILY basis. How do you get those veggies and meats down – and pray your child may eventually LIKE to eat those foods (and forget the forcing and fights!)?
Let’s see what you all had to say!
Leila over at The Go To Mommy gives choices, but everyone must agree on the same thing! She’s also going through a picky eater in the mornings before school. Here’s what Leila has to say: "If it is something I know they won’t eat, we usually give the kids two choices, but they both have to agree on that one choice. If it’s something that they should be eating, but they are just being difficult, they sit there. They have to choices- they can sit there and eat their food, or they can sit there until bed time at which point they will go to bed and not eat until breakfast. My daughter’s new thing is to refuse breakfast before school. I make her sit there until she absolutely must get up to get ready, but then I give her a snack (required for her at school) that isn’t really "fun" for her, we send her with a home lunch (rather than getting school lunch) and she isn’t given a snack when she gets home- she has to wait until dinner. I let my kids know this is NOT Burger King and then cannot have it their way! LOL!"
Linda from NYC Single Mom uses a really creative approach – she takes advantage of her daughters ability to immitate what a playmate will eat, so why not ask the playmates mother to cook up a veggie for lunch and hope your child will mimic the behavior (and eat those greens!) "My daughter hates vegetables. What kid doesn’t? But I have made it my mission that she eats a fruit or vegetable at every meal. I have taken "the experts" advice by forcing her to try a vegetable or should take a bite but even trying any type of vegetable is met with a temper tantrum or a no or even sitting alone after the meal is over. Then one day we had playmate/dinner where the mom made green beans and because her playdate ate the green beans, my daughter ate (okay she tried the green beans). Later in the week, she asked that I make green beans. So anytime, we have a playdate, I enlist the mom help by introducing a new vegetable my daughter hates. This strategy has worked every time. Don’t you love when peer pressure works for the greater good."
Janet from Going Crazy!! Wanna Go??!! has an ex-chef of a husband, which means anyone that isn’t willing to try anything – must be a picky eater! Luckily, Janet is holding down the fort and uses encouragement and reminding her little one that eating good foods will make you big and strong (like.. a Superhero!). Here’s what Janet is dealing with (and how she DEALS with it!): "My husband was a chef for 20 years so to him, my son and I are both picky eaters. I am basically good at trying anything once and some things multiple times (I really want to like tomatoes, but I just can’t) and my son has become fairly good at trying new things. We fall into a routine (since he’s only 4 and our only child) of fixing him a meal to eat while we wait for our dinner to cook. He gets in moods where he wants to only eat hot dogs or only eat chicken nuggets, but he’s becoming a little better at waiting and has recently discovered he loves broccoli and since we eat a lot of it he’s been excited to eat with us. The best advice I have is to encourage your children when they are young and tell them that the good food will help them grow stronger and bigger. Our boy loves to hear that he will grow up to be strong like Daddy or that he can be a SuperHero. We eat lunch at church every week and I used to fight with our boy about eating dessert first because there are always such great desserts each week, but I discovered one week when I was just too exhausted to fight it, that if I let him eat one dessert first he will often eat his entire lunch afterwards. If I fight it, he doesn’t eat anything and we are fighting and it’s just not worth it!!"
TALK TO ME: Tuesday, March 27, 2012
We’ve discussed Pacifier Problems, Temper Tantrum Troubles, and now Picky Eater Problems! Next weeks topic is a topic request submission from Janet over at Going Crazy!! Wanna Go??!!. Apparently, I am dealing with the very same issue as Janet: Poopy Potty Training Problems!
Both of us have little boys, so Janet asked to discuss training #2 for boys. I’ve heard through the grapevine that poopy potty training for girls is SUPER easy (yeah, yeah – good for YOU!), but I welcome any moms of little girls that are having difficulties – or, submit your tips for moms with boys (we need ALL the help we can get!).
Here is what Janet asked and requested from Talk To Me Tuesday participants:
"My 4 year old boy purposely holds it in and gets constipated and then he doesn’t want to sit on the potty to get it out. It can’t be because it hurts because he will stand in the corner and poop in his pants with no problem. He has pooped in the potty a few times and is always proud and excited and everyone praises him and his teachers give him prizes and he is very happy, but then the next time…nothing."
Well, Janet… Sadly I am in the very same predicament and facing the same issue with my own son. My little boy is YET to go #2 on the potty. He refuses to poop in the potty and he holds it in until he is keeled over in pain and crying. A recent trip to the food store (without a diaper…) ended terribly as my son went into overdrive tantrum mode since he was in pain and refuses to use the potty. HELP! Everyone tells me to just give it time, but he starts a 3-year-old preschool program in September. Time flies, which makes me very nervous. I don’t want to turn around and notice it is Labor Day – my son won’t be allowed into school!
What sort of tips can you offer to moms trying to potty train their little boys that refuse to go #2? Is there some sort of secret technique that we haven’t tried? How did your little one go #2 for the first time? Will it EVER happen for us!?
Tell me your tips, stories, and advice on how to deal with POOPY POTTY TRAINING PROBLEMS.. and remember that the amount of anonymity or details revealed is in your hands. Are you currently going through the same issue(s)? Have a story of FAILURE or success? Share your advice and tips. Remember that there is NO such thing as silly advice or knowledge. Everyone’s advice is welcome and I cannot wait to gather your stories into one giant heaping post filled with advice!
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See You Next Week!