Last Tuesday I had introduced all of you to a new segment here at MamaNYC: Talk To Me Tuesday. Since that was the very first time I posted about this new segment, I only discussed how it would work and announced the first topic: Pacifier Problems. This will be our first ‘normal’ post. Did you miss last weeks post? Feel free to read over the Talk To Me Tuesday Introductory Post, but I have also included a rundown of how this works at the BOTTOM of this post.
Every Tuesday I will be featuring a new segment called Talk To Me Tuesday, which is going to feature YOUR advice, input, stories (horror stories welcome!), and tips. Each week I will post the NEXT weeks topic to discuss and everyone will submit their stories. Come back the following Tuesday and you will find your submission(s) posted here at MamaNYC!
First Thing First!
Let’s get down to business and hear YOUR input on last weeks topic!
TUESDAY, MARCH 6TH: Pacifier Problems
Last week I asked my readers to submit some of their tips, positive stories, HORROR stories, and advice on how to deal with pacifiers. My son has been actively using his pacifier since birth, which I wasn’t entirely against… in the beginning. I have always been on the fence about pacifiers since I know they are NOT the best, but they did help to soothe and pacify our son through many late and sick nights.
I have noticed a TREMENDOUS increase in his desire and demands when it comes to his pacifier. His usage has peaked drastically and we have so far been unsuccessful with terminating his usage completely. I am growing tired of looking for his pacifier every night when it’s lost underneath the bed. I never allow him to use it during the day, but lately he’s been getting anxious and upset with me when I refuse to hand it over.
My son will be turning 3-years old within the next two months (end of April), so NOW is the time to kick the habit. I cannot sit here in a year from now telling my readers about my "almost 4-year old son using a pacifier STILL". It will break my heart as a mother if it comes to that!
Without further adieu… Here is what you all had to say about Pacifier Problems:
Firstly, I was glad to know someone feels my pain. It seems as though Sara over at Sweet Silly Sara is on the same boat as I am. I love her idea on how to ‘release’ her child from his binky. Keep reading to find out what Sara had to say about her 21 month old and how she will deal with this problem:
"I am having binky problems with my 21 month old. A part of me wants to give him whatever he wants,(including a pacifier), but I really don’t like that he doesn’t talk when he has that thing in his mouth! I know it is hard for him to sleep without it, and sleep is so important for growing bodies and brains.
What I have been trying is when he wakes up and I can entice him to spit the binky out, I casually grab it and place it out of sight, but easy enough to get to in case he really needs it. I am happier because I can hear my little guy talk and he can have binky when it is really desired, at nap times or when he is upset.
The out of sight out of mind trick seems to work for me. I know it is not a permanent solution. When it is time for my sweetie to give it up all together I am going to tie the pacifier to a balloon and release it, explaining to him that there is a baby out there that really needs that binky, and he is a kind big boy, who needs to help that little baby get to sleep with his binky because he doesn’t really need it anymore."
* Leila over at The Go To Mommy has some great advice! I have heard this tip before and love the idea! I hope it works for my son! "Our pediatrician advised us that when Buddy set down his paci, sneak it away, cut of the nipple part, and then put the paci back where he left it. We did this and of course, Buddy was super mad that his paci was broken, but after a couple of days, it worked. There was some fussiness at bedtime, but not much (I am against crying it out). Within no time, he was weaned from the paci!"
* Lori said… "Both of our children used pacifiers and I know how you feel. It is hard to try and break them of the habit. What I did for both children is this – when they were not around, I used scissors and cut a small slice into the pacifier. Then when they used it again – it didn’t work. They both came to me and showed me and I was like "Oh no, it’s broken and we can’t fix it. Just have to put it in the garbage." I let them do this and luckily, this is what worked for us "
* Maria over at Dixie Land Deals has some really great advice! "When my son was three, I had the hardest time breaking him of his "binky". We tried everything and nothing worked. Finally one day I put it up where he couldn’t find it, and when he started looking for it I told him the dog ate it, so it was all gone. He wasn’t real happy with the dog for a day or two, but he never again asked for his "binky"! My other three actually threw theirs away themselves, so they were a breeze!"
Deb contributed a great idea that she heard from Nanny 911. I love watching Super Nanny and Nanny 911! There is nothing like a professionals advice – and seeing it put into action on TV: "I saw this on Nanny 911 and I can testify that it works…You take every pacifier you have in the house and put them in a little gift box. Tell your child that he is a big boy now and these have to go to the little babies. The fairy will take them so you and he put them out for the fairy and she will leave him a surprise for being a big boy and giving his “binkies” to the little babies.
My niece did this as did her friend and it has worked both times. The fairy will leave your son a gift he would like, so don’t forget to choose something you know he wants…lol. In the morning when he gets up and runs to see what the fairy left him and if she took the binkies…he will be thrilled. Never give him the pacifier again..make sure the house is completely cleared of them…don’t just put them in the kitchen garbage as kids are smart!"
TALK TO ME: Tuesday, March 13, 2012
Temper Tantrum Troubles!
Now that we’ve conquered Pacifier Problems, I want to dig into something that can possibly get a little personal and lead to conflicting point of views: Temper Tantrum Troubles! Temper tantrums are just another universal problem that parents must deal with day in and day out. Depending on the situation and your mood, I know that growing frustrated can happen fast and easily, especially when the child can’t express what they want or need very well.
Although temper tantrums are expected and likely going to happen (if you know how to avoid them completely: do tell!), but they don’t have to be messy or end with everyone involved up in arms (or, tears). It is up to the parent to remain in control and take certain steps to lessen the occurrence.
We try to anticipate tantrums before they happen. Toddlers can be unpredictable, but they are also VERY predictable. Forewarn anyone around you that a tantrum is cooking before it starts to boil over. Distract the child and introduce a new activity before things get too deep, but you should never forget that it is going to happen. You cannot avoid a tantrum, but rather soothe your child.
If the tantrum is over a stubborn related issue, or a punishment (something the child did; a behavior was being corrected and resulted in a tantrum): always watch the child from the corner of your eye in order to avoid anyone from getting hurt. We don’t want to give in, but we need to make sure everyone is going to get through the tantrum quickly and safely!
Tell me your tips, stories, and advice on how to deal with Temper Tantrum Troubles… and remember that the amount of anonymity or details revealed is in your hands. Are you currently going through the same issue(s)? Have a story of FAILURE or success? Share your advice and tips. Remember that there is NO such thing as silly advice or knowledge. Everyone’s advice is welcome and I cannot wait to gather your stories into one giant heaping post filled with advice!
Please use the form below to submit your advice, tips, or stories. Remember that you can remain anonymous if you choose! All of the fields are options on the form.
Just a few things you should know…
- ANONYMITY IS NOT A PROBLEM! You decide what we know about who you are. Choose a pen name or submit your real name. Your tips are what we want to hear – and I don’t want anyone to feel ashamed or scared to broadcast their parenting stories.
- Parenting advice is FREE, but sometimes it is hard to come by GREAT advice.. which is why Talk To Me Tuesday is hopefully going to grow into something more than advice. Let’s share stories. I want to hear how you have conquered your biggest parenting fears. Tell us how to overcome those parenting obstacles that scare the bejeezus out of other parents. I have a 2 1/2 year old son, so I want to know what to expect when my son turns 3 (I promise to act surprised!).
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See You Next Week!